Hello, and welcome! I’m Stephen Borgman, a licensed clinical professional counselor.
“Why are you a therapist?”
I didn’t plan to be a counselor.
In fact, through most of my college years, I had no idea what I wanted to do when I grew up.
Both my mother and father, though, are people helpers, whether as missionaries or teachers, so it shouldn’t have surprised me that I would go into a people helping profession myself.
When I took a number of career counseling tests after college, being a counselor was a good fit. And it turned out to be something I loved doing and learning about.
Kids and Adults?
In my practice, I see about half kids and half adults.
Why is this?
When I started out as a counselor I worked with primarily kids and teens, first in a residential setting, then at a local university.
And I found out that I relate well with kids and young people.
I drew upon those experiences when I started a private practice in 2003.
I’ve also worked in hospitals counseling adults in partial hospital and inpatient programs.
I found that I like working with adults as well.
And the variety of kids from age 7 to adults up to age 65 keeps me very interested in all that I do.
Why Boys and Men?
I limit my counseling to working with boys and men.
It’s because I’m a guy!
I’ve found that it’s easiest to relate to boys and men out of my own experience growing up from a boy to becoming a man.
If you’re a Christian, whether Catholic, Orthodox, or Protestant/non-denominational, I very much will enjoy working with you.
I work as a Christian counselor when my clients wish to bring that perspective into whatever counseling issues they are going through.
At Trinity International University (formerly Trinity Evangelical Divinity School) I learned about both counseling theory and practice, but also how to integrate that with a deep understanding of theology.
“Steve, I’m Not A Christian…”
That’s quite okay.
I’d say up to 60% of all clients I have worked with and continue to work with are not Christian.
I respect where you’re coming from, just as I’ve expected counselors I’ve received counseling from to respect my beliefs.
And More About My Counseling Interests…
I’ve also come to enjoy the relational, cognitive behavioral, and solution-focused approaches to therapy.
Over the years I’ve enjoyed learning about cognitive behavioral therapy from Dr. Judith Beck, the daughter of cognitive therapy founder Dr. Aaron Beck. I’ve also taken continuing education seminars in solution-focused therapy, which I enjoy because of its emphasis on pragmatic solutions.
The Corporate World
I’ve worked for 14 years at MetLife, assisting with return to work planning and review of psychiatric long term disabiity claims.
Working in the corporate world gives me a unique appreciation for the pressures, change, and challenges of working as a man in corporate America.
I love helping men learn new and more effective ways to handle work stress.
I developed an interest in autism and Asperger’s because of my son David, who was diagnosed as autistic at age 3. He’s been one of the greatest teachers in my life, and he’s inspired the Thrive with Aspergers/Autism blog and all the work that I do with kids and adults on the autism spectrum.
If you’d like to get to know me a bit more informally, listen to my interview with Dr. Erica Goodstone, founder of Healthy Baby Boomers Network. (you’ll have to listen to a brief commercial before the interview starts).
Also feel free to view my online resume.
Running, Reading, Podcasting, Family, and Friends
Here are some odds and ends about me outside of the counseling office.
I’ve run four Chicago Marathons (well, I’ve walked and run) for charity organizations, and I’m currently training for my fifth.
Having grown up in northern Brazil, South America, as the son of missionary parents, I am interested in social justice and economic empowerment. Most of the marathons I run include fundraising for clean water projects across the world.
Besides running, give me a book and I’ll be happy!
I’ve also become interested in blogging and podcasting over the last few years, so this area of life keeps me learning and on my toes.
Finally, I love ‘hanging’ with my family and friends as much as possible.
I’m happily married with my wife, Vicki, and proud father to David and Sarah (ages 19 and 16).
Not only that, but I am the proud owner of more than one cat (I won’t say how many!), and a cocker-spaniel poodle mix, Lucy.
Enough About Me! Now What About You?!
Whether you are struggling with depression, anxiety or stress, I hope you’ll feel more comfortable having gotten to read about me.
If you’re a parent who’s not sure what is going on with your child, I’ve got a lot of experience learning to appreciate my own son and to learn from his neurological diversity.
I’d love to walk alongside of you if you have a son who’s struggling with depression, anxiety, or academic struggles.
Call me at 847.571.0274 to talk for 15 minute strategy session.
I’ll listen to you and we can decide whether you’d like to meet for an initial session for you to get to know me.
You can schedule a free strategy session to see if I can help you.
Or you may contact me via the form below. Please keep your message fairly general, so that you can protect your privacy and speak more specifically when we talk via phone.